When breastfeeding makes you sad or mad
Breastfeeding can be a beautiful experience, but it's not always smooth sailing. For some mothers, breastfeeding aversion can turn this experience into an emotional rollercoaster. Let's explore what it is, how it affects mothers, and how to cope.
Understanding Breastfeeding Aversion
Breastfeeding aversion, also known as nursing aversion, occurs when negative feelings arise during breastfeeding. These feelings can include:
- Anger
- Irritation
- Skin-crawling sensations
- Intrusive thoughts (like feeling trapped or wanting to de-latch)
It's unexpected, distressing, and can leave you questioning your sanity.
Why Does It Happen?
The exact cause of breastfeeding aversion isn't fully understood, but several factors may contribute:
1. Hormonal Changes: Hormones play a significant role in breastfeeding. As your baby suckles, the hormone oxytocin is released, triggering milk let-down. Sometimes, this hormonal surge can lead to aversion.
2. Physical Discomfort: Sore nipples, fatigue, or other physical discomforts can intensify aversion.
3. Emotional Triggers: Stress, exhaustion, or past trauma can amplify negative emotions during breastfeeding.
Coping Strategies
If you're experiencing breastfeeding aversion, know that you're not alone. Here are some strategies to help:
1. Acknowledge Your Feelings: It's okay to feel this way. Acknowledge your emotions without judgment.
2. Set Boundaries: Communicate openly with your partner or support system. Establish boundaries to protect your mental well-being.
3. Self-Care: Prioritise self-care. Rest, eat well, and seek emotional support.
4. Weaning: If aversion persists, consider weaning gradually. Remember, your mental health matters too.
Resources for Support
1. Breastfeeding Aversion Website (https://www.breastfeedingaversion.com/): A comprehensive resource with information, community support, and a free interactive guide.
2. Book: When Breastfeeding Sucks by Zainab Yate. This book dives deep into nursing aversion, providing insights and guidance for both mothers and breastfeeding supporters.
